- Begin eating until everyone has been served.
- Lick the knife! Sharp objects should never be put in the mouth, not to mention that Band-Aids don’t do well on the tongue.
- Lean back on a chair’s hind legs.
- Speak with food in his mouth.
- Chew with her mouth open. In addition, don’t chew noisily.
- Put more in his mouth than he can chew. Small bites should be encouraged. In addition, food should never be shoveled.
- Interrupt others when they are talking.
- Point utensils at others.
- Leave the chair out when he gets up. It should always be pushed in when he steps away from the table.
- Take the last bit of food without first offering it to others at the table.
- Talk about gross or gossipy subjects.
- Get up until everyone else is finished eating.
- Put elbows on the table. After all, Mae West once said, “Keep all uncooked joints off the table.”
Dining Faux Pas
Here are just a few of the many dining dos you should begin teaching your child:
- Your napkin should be placed on the lap when you sit down. It is unfolded on your lap, not above the table. If someone inadvertently took your napkin, don’t shout, “Who took my napkin?” Quietly ask for another. Many parents ask if it is okay to tuck in their child’s napkin into the collar to prevent spillage onto clothes. You may do so if your child is 5 or younger.
- Feet should be flat on the floor (if they reach) and have your back against the chair…good posture!
- Hold the glass with two hands if necessary. If the glasses are more formal, small hands can hold the stem to prevent tipping or dropping.
- If a bread basket or other food item is passed to you, remember to continue passing to the right. If the dish is closest to you before you begin passing, offer it to the person to your left and then pass to the right.
- If you must sneeze or cough, turn your head toward your shoulder and cover your mouth with your napkin or hand (preferably your napkin).
- Always wipe your mouth with your napkin before taking a sip. Greasy lips leave an unpleasant and unappetizing ring on the glass.
- If you must use the bathroom, simply say, “excuse me” and get up. If there are guests at the table, you need not let everyone know where you are going.
- Get in and out of your chair on the right side.
Your toddler may or may not be familiar with the custom of saying grace. Explain to your child that other families may give thanks before a meal. It may be something simple like, “Lord, thank you for the food we are about to receive. Amen.” Or it may be a song that is sung by all at the table. No matter how a family handles grace, anything new to a child can be intimidating. You can prepare your child to handle it like a pro by instructing them to follow what others are doing. They need not say anything, but by bowing their heads and closing their eyes during grace, they are showing respect.
If you are having a child over for dinner and your family says grace, you should tell the child’s parent ahead of time (unless, of course, they already know). The other parent can then talk to their child about it, so they are not surprised and confused. Giving a parent the heads up is simply a matter of courtesy!
Gulp … Drinks!
Toddlers love to assert their independence and are big advocates of the “I can do it myself” mentality. When it comes to drinks, there a few etiquette dos and don’ts that should be enforced.
First, your child should not reach in front of or across others to get a drink. Rather, they should politely ask for a drink (remembering their please and thank you). If the juice container or pitcher is too heavy or awkward, they should use two hands to pour. One hand should hold the handle, while the other supports the side of the container. Remind your child that it is okay to ask for help when pouring a drink.
Slurping and gulping is quite unpleasant (and unappetizing) at the table. Remind your child to drink quietly and slowly. They should swallow any food in their mouth and wipe their lips with their napkin before taking a sip. Of course, if your toddler has something spicy or hot in their mouth, a quick sip is necessary and acceptable. As your child gets older and masters the art of pouring, they can begin to ask those to the right and left of them if they too would like a drink.
As your child gets older and masters these skills, you can incorporate more dining etiquette into their routine. Practice makes perfect… well, if not perfect, at least pleasantly pleasing to dine with!
By Melissa Leonard